Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. (…) Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
People often ask me about the difference between personal coaching and counselling.
Coaches help their clients “to take stock”/evaluate the present, to then set and achieve goals. This means looking into the future. We might brush on problems that have arisen in the past to understand why the client is holding on to certain beliefs, but ultimately, we let the past be the past, and the client has to leave it behind as well. If we suspect deeper problems that need addressing, we will suggest the client sees a counsellor, psychologist or psychotherapist. This is why our training also includes a fair amount of psychology, because obviously, we need to be able to spot these problems.
Artists need to allow themselves to be vulnerable, and often reach into the past for this (not all find this necessary, but a fair amount do). We need a different approach however when it comes to organising our daily lives and having a look at the business side of things. This is when past failures that are still too present in our minds can become a real stumbling block. You can learn from them, but ultimately, you need to let them go.
You set your goals, and you go for them with full commitment. That’s looking ahead, not back…
© Petra Raspel 2013